HOW TO HAVE SEX LIKE A GOD: THE COMPLETE GUIDE FOR MEN

Most guys don’t have it so easy. Even if they roll up to the first date in an Aston Martin sporting the jawline of James Dean and the comedic genius of Will Ferrell, all it takes is one night of terrible sex to completely ruin their chances at long-term bliss (or a solid sexual rep). And while it’s easy to pick up golf and grilling tips from friends, guys are far less likely to share sex tips with each other. So how can they improve their skills? Don’t worry — we’re here to help. Follow this guide and we guarantee you’ll soon be the number one lover-man in your postal district (or at least in the top ten).

THE #1 SEX TIP FOR GUYS: BECOME A MIND READER

Ever wonder why clairvoyants claim to have predictive powers but none of them ever seem to win the lottery? The answer isn’t in a crystal ball — it’s in the ancient art of “cold reading.”  These mediums begin by making general suggestions and paying very, very close attention to how people react. Nodding, leaning forward, raising eyebrows — these are all signs that the psychic’s predictions are on the right track. By backing out of the suggestions that seem to be dead ends and proceeding cautiously down the paths that produce positive reactions, mediums amaze their audiences, even if they don’t have a connection to the spirit world. You can use the same kind of skill to seem like a mind-reader in the bedroom. Here’s how:

LIKE A PSYCHIC, START WITH A GENERAL APPROACH.

Don’t pull any “signature moves” right out of the gate.

PAY ATTENTION TO THE FEEDBACK YOU’RE RECEIVING.

The easiest feedback is of course verbal. If your partner says “that feels good” don’t switch to another move or vary your pace right away.

NOT ALL SEXUAL FEEDBACK COMES IN THE FORM OF WORDS.

Pay attention to sighs, moans and quicker breaths — these all mean you’re on the right track!

BODY LANGUAGE DURING SEX MAY TELL YOU EVEN MORE.

Do they pull away? Jump or jolt? Do they move your hands from where they are to another part of their body? These are signs that it’s time to ditch your current move and try something else.

RESPECT YOUR PARTNER’S BOUNDARIES.

If you have a signature move you’re super proud of and they say, “that hurts,” “stop doing that” or let you know in some other way that they’re not a fan, don’t try to convince them. Abort mission and try something else! 

GIVE YOUR PARTNER FEEDBACK

When it comes to sex tips for guys, “reading” your partner’s mind is incredibly important — but giving them feedback might be even more crucial. If you want to have the best sex of your life, it isn’t just about telling your partner what you like and don’t like — HOW you give your feedback matters too. For great sex, here are tips to follow:

TALK ABOUT WHAT FEELS GOOD.

One of the most important sex tips for guys is to give positive feedback — moan, sigh, say “that feels amazing” etc. when you’re enjoying yourself.

INSTEAD OF COMPLAINING, OFFER A SEXY ALTERNATIVE.

If your partner has been going down on you for hours and you can’t wait to do the deed, instead of saying “UGH why are you taking so long!?” say “I can’t wait to be inside you.” They’ll usually take the hint without their confidence getting damaged in the process.

KEEP IT GENERAL WHEN YOU COMPLIMENT THEIR BODY.

You may love tiny breasts or a huge butt, but the very things you find sexy about your partner might be sources of major anxiety for them. So instead of talking about the size or shape of their body, keep it general. Say things like, “you’re so sexy” or “your legs are so hot.”

DON’T LEAVE THEM GUESSING AFTER THE DEED.

A simple, “That was fun!” after you’re done gives them some validation and also lets them know you’d be interested in a second-round at some point. 

FOR THE BEST SEX OF YOUR LIFE: SPEED IS KEY

As many a girl’s Instagram bio proclaims, “Life isn’t about the destination, it’s about the journey.” So while you may have tunnel vision on the orgasm waiting for you at the finish line, try not to run full speed until you reach it. Slow down and take a detour or two. If you’ve ever wondered how to have longer sex, taking control of your pace is key, but in the heat of the moment, it’s easier said than done. These sex tips for guys can help:

REFOCUS ON FOREPLAY.

Kissing and caressing aren’t things that should only happen before penetration. You’ll have the hottest sex ever when you continue these actions throughout your sex session. Running out of ideas? Check out these 6 sexy foreplay tips you’ll want to try tonight!

GIVE THE NIPPLES SOME LOVE.

Nipples are packed with nerve endings, making them powerful erogenous zones. Slow your thrusts and give your partner’s nipples some attention by gently licking them up and down, licking around them in a circular motion and sucking on them lightly. It’ll drive them wild and allow you a chance to catch your breath.

SLOW YOUR BREATHING.

You don’t need to get into the lotus position and start meditating, but breathing deeply for four seconds and exhaling for four seconds can help slow your heart rate, decrease blood flow and help you last longer in bed.